Comments on: Brave? http://paxye.com/blog/brave/ My journey through motherhood being a black sheep in the parenting world... Tue, 07 Oct 2008 08:35:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: mubeenah http://paxye.com/blog/brave/#comment-465 mubeenah Fri, 01 Dec 2006 06:17:39 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=317#comment-465 I really enjoyed that post. The midwife I had the first time was amazing. I kind of felt like it was mostly me, we only called her when it was time to push. She got there at around noon and Naeem was born an hour later. I am not too sure how this experience will be. I kind of only wanted a midwife but the midwife we have doesn't work alone. I really don't think I have it in me to be unassisted, just because the first time, I experienced some intense feelings( thought I was going to die, and felt ridiculous for being at home, etc) I can't remember how long it lasted and I even wonder if I would have that feeling again. When you are up to it, I'd like to call you. We still don't have a local number but if you have long distance you can call me. I'll email you my number. Oh this is baddestbadass from lj, incase you are wondering who this is. I really enjoyed that post. The midwife I had the first time was amazing. I kind of felt like it was mostly me, we only called her when it was time to push. She got there at around noon and Naeem was born an hour later. I am not too sure how this experience will be. I kind of only wanted a midwife but the midwife we have doesn’t work alone. I really don’t think I have it in me to be unassisted, just because the first time, I experienced some intense feelings( thought I was going to die, and felt ridiculous for being at home, etc) I can’t remember how long it lasted and I even wonder if I would have that feeling again.

When you are up to it, I’d like to call you. We still don’t have a local number but if you have long distance you can call me. I’ll email you my number. Oh this is baddestbadass from lj, incase you are wondering who this is.

]]> By: paxye http://paxye.com/blog/brave/#comment-464 paxye Mon, 16 Oct 2006 00:03:39 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=317#comment-464 bluemoonmama: (((hugs))) I am so sorry about your miscarriages... I can't even imagine. I wish you all the best... it does feel a bit weird at first to have a UP but it also feels very liberating and for me anyways. It makes me proud to know that I am able to take care of myself when I am healthy, and when I am not feeling well, I am able to understand why, find the answer and help myself feel better... This pregnancy has been so much less stressful and I truly believe that the birth will be also. Sending all the sticky babydust your way ;) Sara, I think that the "bravery" can be also with the first child if you are in he right mindset. Over the months that I have been looking into UC and into the UC community I have "met" quite a few moms that have UC'd with their first child. I wish that I would have been more informed the last times... bluemoonmama:
(((hugs))) I am so sorry about your miscarriages… I can’t even imagine.
I wish you all the best… it does feel a bit weird at first to have a UP but it also feels very liberating and for me anyways. It makes me proud to know that I am able to take care of myself when I am healthy, and when I am not feeling well, I am able to understand why, find the answer and help myself feel better…
This pregnancy has been so much less stressful and I truly believe that the birth will be also. Sending all the sticky babydust your way ;)
Sara,
I think that the “bravery” can be also with the first child if you are in he right mindset. Over the months that I have been looking into UC and into the UC community I have “met” quite a few moms that have UC’d with their first child. I wish that I would have been more informed the last times…

]]> By: msaraann http://paxye.com/blog/brave/#comment-463 msaraann Thu, 12 Oct 2006 22:02:24 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=317#comment-463 I've been a bit struck by the brave comments, too, that I received when people learned that I birthed my second baby at home. I thought the same thing--that women are brave to birth at the hospital where they'll have little or no control. But, they don't feel that way. They're so frightened of what they don't understand and what they've been taught to fear. It was that fear of what I had no experience with that led me to the hospital for my first birth. I couldn't even find a single woman to answer my pregnancy questions and help me work through those fears. I misspent my energy arguing my way through that birth to keep it unmedicated and natural. With my second, I was lucky to find a hands-off midwife during my 36th week, otherwise I had planned to go it alone, but I was still afraid. If I do it again, I don't think I'll be afraid. The "bravery" has to come from experience. Most women don't get it. I’ve been a bit struck by the brave comments, too, that I received when people learned that I birthed my second baby at home. I thought the same thing–that women are brave to birth at the hospital where they’ll have little or no control. But, they don’t feel that way. They’re so frightened of what they don’t understand and what they’ve been taught to fear. It was that fear of what I had no experience with that led me to the hospital for my first birth. I couldn’t even find a single woman to answer my pregnancy questions and help me work through those fears. I misspent my energy arguing my way through that birth to keep it unmedicated and natural. With my second, I was lucky to find a hands-off midwife during my 36th week, otherwise I had planned to go it alone, but I was still afraid. If I do it again, I don’t think I’ll be afraid. The “bravery” has to come from experience. Most women don’t get it.

]]> By: bluemoonmama http://paxye.com/blog/brave/#comment-462 bluemoonmama Thu, 12 Oct 2006 16:11:19 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=317#comment-462 Paxye, I do think you are brave, for the reason you explained. That was a really excellent post. I am excited for you, and I think about you every day. I am still TTC baby #2 (I've now had two misarriages in one year), but I hope that I'll be successful, and that I'll then be brave enough to take the same path you have. Best wishes!! Paxye, I do think you are brave, for the reason you explained. That was a really excellent post.

I am excited for you, and I think about you every day. I am still TTC baby #2 (I’ve now had two misarriages in one year), but I hope that I’ll be successful, and that I’ll then be brave enough to take the same path you have.

Best wishes!!

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