Comments on: I can’t believe that I forgot about this… http://paxye.com/blog/i-cant-believe-that-i-forgot-about-this/ My journey through motherhood being a black sheep in the parenting world... Tue, 06 Jan 2009 15:39:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: msaraann http://paxye.com/blog/i-cant-believe-that-i-forgot-about-this/comment-page-1/#comment-158 msaraann Mon, 02 Jan 2006 00:21:31 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=147#comment-158 What I want to know is why other people feel the need to recommend weaning as if breastfeeding could harm your child. My three-year-old nurses, too. I usually say things like "Actually, a child's immune system isn't fully functional until he's around six, so breastmilk fills the need for immune support," or "Note the correlation between the age of six or seven and the development of adult teeth," or just "We're happy with continued breastfeeding." Honestly, she's not ready to wean, and I'm not ready for her to wean either. What I want to know is why other people feel the need to recommend weaning as if breastfeeding could harm your child. My three-year-old nurses, too.

I usually say things like “Actually, a child’s immune system isn’t fully functional until he’s around six, so breastmilk fills the need for immune support,” or “Note the correlation between the age of six or seven and the development of adult teeth,” or just “We’re happy with continued breastfeeding.” Honestly, she’s not ready to wean, and I’m not ready for her to wean either.

]]> By: toddtyrtle http://paxye.com/blog/i-cant-believe-that-i-forgot-about-this/comment-page-1/#comment-157 toddtyrtle Fri, 30 Dec 2005 02:16:46 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=147#comment-157 Excellent point, and I agree. In a medical setting, unsolicited parenting advice is inappropriate. The birthing centre where the midwives who helped with Paul's birth strongly suggested that we interview pediatricians before the birth to make sure we agreed with them. We did, and were glad to have done so. Out of about five interviews, only a couple were people we could see taking care of Paul. Some were downright hostile to the ideas of the family bed, extended nursing and avoiding/delaying (we hadn't decided then) vaccinations. The one we chose supported us on all points. And while I agree that parenting style shouldn't be a part of dialog with the pediatrician, it was good to have discussed it so that it didn't turn into a big issue later. Excellent point, and I agree. In a medical setting, unsolicited parenting advice is inappropriate. The birthing centre where the midwives who helped with Paul’s birth strongly suggested that we interview pediatricians before the birth to make sure we agreed with them. We did, and were glad to have done so. Out of about five interviews, only a couple were people we could see taking care of Paul. Some were downright hostile to the ideas of the family bed, extended nursing and avoiding/delaying (we hadn’t decided then) vaccinations. The one we chose supported us on all points. And while I agree that parenting style shouldn’t be a part of dialog with the pediatrician, it was good to have discussed it so that it didn’t turn into a big issue later.

]]> By: paxye http://paxye.com/blog/i-cant-believe-that-i-forgot-about-this/comment-page-1/#comment-156 paxye Fri, 30 Dec 2005 00:42:09 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=147#comment-156 Todd… I agree.. But….. I think that there is a difference between getting parenting advice in a doctors office and researching Parenting advice and taking advice that may just happen to be given by a doctor…. In one situation you may not understand all of the points, there may be a misunderstanding, there may be info left out, there may not be time to ask more questions, it may make you uncomfortable if it goes against your instincts etc… While the other situation is one where you don’t feel pressured to make a decision, you have time to go back and do more research, when you don’t agree or don’t understand you can just close the book close the site and go to something else, get other opinions from other sources and most importantly if you don’t like the advice then you can just go to another source without having to worry about what to say when you do need to go back for medical advice… KWIM…. I don’t think that all doctors are completely incompetent when it comes to parenting advice I just don’t think that it should be done in the office…. Todd… I agree..
But…..
I think that there is a difference between getting parenting advice in a doctors office and researching Parenting advice and taking advice that may just happen to be given by a doctor….
In one situation you may not understand all of the points, there may be a misunderstanding, there may be info left out, there may not be time to ask more questions, it may make you uncomfortable if it goes against your instincts etc…
While the other situation is one where you don’t feel pressured to make a decision, you have time to go back and do more research, when you don’t agree or don’t understand you can just close the book close the site and go to something else, get other opinions from other sources and most importantly if you don’t like the advice then you can just go to another source without having to worry about what to say when you do need to go back for medical advice… KWIM….
I don’t think that all doctors are completely incompetent when it comes to parenting advice I just don’t think that it should be done in the office….

]]> By: toddtyrtle http://paxye.com/blog/i-cant-believe-that-i-forgot-about-this/comment-page-1/#comment-155 toddtyrtle Thu, 29 Dec 2005 23:43:05 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=147#comment-155 I don't know as I'd say <i>don't ever</i> take parenting advice from doctors. However, what I would say is that doctors, in my opinion, are no better than other people in terms of knowing what's best. There are good and bad ones. There are many doctors I wouldn't listen to. However, for many (but not all) things, I really like what <a HREF="http://askdrsears.com/" rel="nofollow">Dr. Sears</a> has to say. In fact, much of why we are the parents we are has to do with the advice he has given (tempered with our own judgement, of course). I don’t know as I’d say don’t ever take parenting advice from doctors. However, what I would say is that doctors, in my opinion, are no better than other people in terms of knowing what’s best. There are good and bad ones. There are many doctors I wouldn’t listen to. However, for many (but not all) things, I really like what Dr. Sears has to say. In fact, much of why we are the parents we are has to do with the advice he has given (tempered with our own judgement, of course).

]]> By: paxye http://paxye.com/blog/i-cant-believe-that-i-forgot-about-this/comment-page-1/#comment-154 paxye Thu, 29 Dec 2005 23:25:56 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=147#comment-154 But that wasn’t the question… I said… Why do people take PARENTING advice from doctors?…. I go see a doctor for my kids when they are sick to get medical advice which is WHY we have doctors.... Medical advice is way different then Parenting advice… And I am sorry to say that ending up in the ER with a sick child has nothing to do with the advice from doctors… that usually comes from virus’s, infections, and other circumstances that have nothing to do with the advice given in the past from a doctor… and I would even argue that for those who have doctors that push formula those ER visits happen way more often and it is BECAUSE fo the ill advice of a so-called competent doctor…. Doctors shouldn’t be giving parenting advice… I am talking about advice on sleeping through the night, discipline, potty training etc, telling a mom she shouldn’t breastfeed past a certain age and they shouldn't push formula at all (that goes against good medical advice), they shouldn't tell a mom she is harming a child by holding them too much and all of that other advice that just has no place in a doctors office… especially when many doctors actually give advice that goes against a mom’s instincts… But that wasn’t the question…
I said… Why do people take PARENTING advice from doctors?….
I go see a doctor for my kids when they are sick to get medical advice which is WHY we have doctors…. Medical advice is way different then Parenting advice…
And I am sorry to say that ending up in the ER with a sick child has nothing to do with the advice from doctors… that usually comes from virus’s, infections, and other circumstances that have nothing to do with the advice given in the past from a doctor… and I would even argue that for those who have doctors that push formula those ER visits happen way more often and it is BECAUSE fo the ill advice of a so-called competent doctor….
Doctors shouldn’t be giving parenting advice… I am talking about advice on sleeping through the night, discipline, potty training etc, telling a mom she shouldn’t breastfeed past a certain age and they shouldn’t push formula at all (that goes against good medical advice), they shouldn’t tell a mom she is harming a child by holding them too much and all of that other advice that just has no place in a doctors office… especially when many doctors actually give advice that goes against a mom’s instincts…

]]> By: birdie http://paxye.com/blog/i-cant-believe-that-i-forgot-about-this/comment-page-1/#comment-153 birdie Thu, 29 Dec 2005 21:36:01 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=147#comment-153 "Why the HECK do people take parenting advice from doctors!" Well - I do it whenever it comes to my child's *health* because I didn't go to medical school and they did. That way my children are less likely to get severely ill and end up in the ER with seriously high fevers or pneumonia, measles, mumps, rubella, etc. I recognize that as a parent, I DON'T know everything. To quote Socrates: "Wisest is he who knows what he does not know." “Why the HECK do people take parenting advice from doctors!”
Well - I do it whenever it comes to my child’s *health* because I didn’t go to medical school and they did. That way my children are less likely to get severely ill and end up in the ER with seriously high fevers or pneumonia, measles, mumps, rubella, etc. I recognize that as a parent, I DON’T know everything. To quote Socrates: “Wisest is he who knows what he does not know.”

]]> By: toddtyrtle http://paxye.com/blog/i-cant-believe-that-i-forgot-about-this/comment-page-1/#comment-152 toddtyrtle Thu, 29 Dec 2005 10:58:16 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=147#comment-152 What I got most out of our <a HREF="http://www.bradleybirth.com/" rel="nofollow">Bradley Method</a> birthing classes was the realization that doctors are human too and that they are subject to their own biases, psychological issues and incompetencies. Before that I just assumed that most doctors were the same and their advice was to be followed unquestioningly. Now I am more realistic. What I got most out of our Bradley Method birthing classes was the realization that doctors are human too and that they are subject to their own biases, psychological issues and incompetencies. Before that I just assumed that most doctors were the same and their advice was to be followed unquestioningly. Now I am more realistic.

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