Comments on: the difference between boys and girls… http://paxye.com/blog/the-difference-between-boys-and-girls/ My journey through motherhood being a black sheep in the parenting world... Thu, 08 Jan 2009 11:39:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: paxye http://paxye.com/blog/the-difference-between-boys-and-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-344 paxye Tue, 29 Aug 2006 23:59:07 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=235#comment-344 Actually he says 3-4 months not 4-5 months... but I agree that it might be a bit exagerated and there are a lot more factors that probably play into it... Actually he says 3-4 months not 4-5 months… but I agree that it might be a bit exagerated and there are a lot more factors that probably play into it…

]]> By: Anne http://paxye.com/blog/the-difference-between-boys-and-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-343 Anne Tue, 29 Aug 2006 18:43:39 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=235#comment-343 I myself walked when I was 8 months and my sister as well. My brother on the other hand walked when he was 11 months. But like you say, there are always exceptions. My own impression is just that it is very exaggerated to say that boys typically walk 4-5 months before girls. The difference can not possibly be that big when so many girls walk very fast and many boys walk very slow. I´m following a lot groups for parents on the internet and here it is typically the girls that walk faster. So our experience seem to be quite different. I would really like to know from where Michael Gurien has got his claims from, cause I don´t really believe him - and it annoys me if he just claims this without having searched more into it. I´m sorry about my poor english Anne I myself walked when I was 8 months and my sister as well. My brother on the other hand walked when he was 11 months. But like you say, there are always exceptions. My own impression is just that it is very exaggerated to say that boys typically walk 4-5 months before girls. The difference can not possibly be that big when so many girls walk very fast and many boys walk very slow. I´m following a lot groups for parents on the internet and here it is typically the girls that walk faster. So our experience seem to be quite different.

I would really like to know from where Michael Gurien has got his claims from, cause I don´t really believe him - and it annoys me if he just claims this without having searched more into it.

I´m sorry about my poor english

Anne

]]> By: paxye http://paxye.com/blog/the-difference-between-boys-and-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-342 paxye Sat, 19 Aug 2006 12:07:22 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=235#comment-342 Personally I have always seen boys walk on average earlier than girls, and most of the girls that I know talked earlier than the boys...(btw... my boys were both up and walking at 9 months) but of course that doesn't mean that girls will not hit that milestone as early either... but on average, boys seem to be better at the gross motor skills earlier than girls and girl seem to be better at the fine motor skills...again, like in everything there are always exceptions... I don't have any studies but as the other comments mention, Michael Gurien's books are a good place to start if you want to learn more... However, I also believe that there are other factors that help with certain developmental skills such as walking.. such as kids that are worn for long periods all of their babyhood are most likely to walk before their peers... Personally I have always seen boys walk on average earlier than girls, and most of the girls that I know talked earlier than the boys…(btw… my boys were both up and walking at 9 months) but of course that doesn’t mean that girls will not hit that milestone as early either… but on average, boys seem to be better at the gross motor skills earlier than girls and girl seem to be better at the fine motor skills…again, like in everything there are always exceptions…

I don’t have any studies but as the other comments mention, Michael Gurien’s books are a good place to start if you want to learn more…

However, I also believe that there are other factors that help with certain developmental skills such as walking.. such as kids that are worn for long periods all of their babyhood are most likely to walk before their peers…

]]> By: Anne http://paxye.com/blog/the-difference-between-boys-and-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-341 Anne Sat, 19 Aug 2006 08:16:32 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=235#comment-341 Do boys really walk three or four months earlier than girls? I have always heard that it is the other way round! That girls tend to walk earlier than boys and generally are faster developed with most other things. The baby girls that I have known have walked pretty early and earlier than the baby boys that I know. And three - four months! That doesn´t sound right. Which studies have been made within that area? I am really curious to hear more about that! Anne Do boys really walk three or four months earlier than girls? I have always heard that it is the other way round! That girls tend to walk earlier than boys and generally are faster developed with most other things. The baby girls that I have known have walked pretty early and earlier than the baby boys that I know. And three - four months! That doesn´t sound right.

Which studies have been made within that area? I am really curious to hear more about that!

Anne

]]> By: paxye http://paxye.com/blog/the-difference-between-boys-and-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-340 paxye Fri, 07 Apr 2006 23:06:37 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=235#comment-340 I agree that there is a lot of teaching involved... However, my boys are just "typical boys"... My older son is obssessed by soccer and hockey, by cars and trucks and trains, hates dolls and the colour pink, makes guns out of legos and makes his toys fight... Neither my DH nor I like sports and do not watch or talk about them, we are completely non-violent, we don't provide any sort of toy gun or encourage gun play, we provide dolls and other toys that are concidered more "girl" toys as well as other toys etc... He is drawn to all of this because of who he is and not because of how he has been raised. I really do believe that there are fundamental differences between girls and boys... However, that being said, I think that it is the parents role to guide them and teach them... My son loves his "Buzz Lightyear" toy, makes him fight and defeat other toys but he then wears him in a sling on his back when we go out for walk... I agree that there is a lot of teaching involved…
However, my boys are just “typical boys”… My older son is obssessed by soccer and hockey, by cars and trucks and trains, hates dolls and the colour pink, makes guns out of legos and makes his toys fight…
Neither my DH nor I like sports and do not watch or talk about them, we are completely non-violent, we don’t provide any sort of toy gun or encourage gun play, we provide dolls and other toys that are concidered more “girl” toys as well as other toys etc…
He is drawn to all of this because of who he is and not because of how he has been raised. I really do believe that there are fundamental differences between girls and boys…
However, that being said, I think that it is the parents role to guide them and teach them…
My son loves his “Buzz Lightyear” toy, makes him fight and defeat other toys but he then wears him in a sling on his back when we go out for walk…

]]> By: SandraMort http://paxye.com/blog/the-difference-between-boys-and-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-339 SandraMort Thu, 06 Apr 2006 16:15:14 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=235#comment-339 I dunno. I've got one of each (well, plus a baby) and I don't see a huge difference. Some, yes. ANd some that even agrees with the studies. But mostly, no. I think most of it is taught. I dunno. I’ve got one of each (well, plus a baby) and I don’t see a huge difference. Some, yes. ANd some that even agrees with the studies. But mostly, no. I think most of it is taught.

]]> By: mamamilkers http://paxye.com/blog/the-difference-between-boys-and-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-338 mamamilkers Wed, 05 Apr 2006 00:55:17 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=235#comment-338 I am reading Michael Gurien's "The Wonder of Girls" (he also wrote "The Wonder of Boys") and am so amazed by the differences between the two sexes, especially what is going on in the brain. It has helped me relate to my daughter differently, as well as to those of the opposite sex in my own life :) I highly recommend his books. They actually came recommended to me by a woman with a PhD in child development. I am reading Michael Gurien’s “The Wonder of Girls” (he also wrote “The Wonder of Boys”) and am so amazed by the differences between the two sexes, especially what is going on in the brain. It has helped me relate to my daughter differently, as well as to those of the opposite sex in my own life :)
I highly recommend his books. They actually came recommended to me by a woman with a PhD in child development.

]]> By: msaraann http://paxye.com/blog/the-difference-between-boys-and-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-337 msaraann Tue, 04 Apr 2006 18:21:01 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=235#comment-337 My girls are girly. I'm not overly feminine, myself, so I know they're not just imitating me. They're rough and energetic in princess costumes, and they're completely uninterested in trucks and action figures. A few years back, I wrote a short article about girls and boys based on info I'd learned in Michael Gurien's books. http://www.suite101.com/article.cfm/natural_parenting/101034 My girls are girly. I’m not overly feminine, myself, so I know they’re not just imitating me. They’re rough and energetic in princess costumes, and they’re completely uninterested in trucks and action figures. A few years back, I wrote a short article about girls and boys based on info I’d learned in Michael Gurien’s books.
http://www.suite101.com/article.cfm/natural_parenting/101034

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